Honestly, it's time to let that slave ass mentality go. It still amazes me how people (especially the Black community) still believe beating the shit out of their children will change their behavior for good.
Like, NO! That child may not do whatever around you anymore, but they'll still do it. Especially if it's something they WANT to do. Why will they still do it? Because they don't even know WHY what they did was wrong or bad, but they do know it upset their parent(s). This is one way to create sneaky children.
Some things are excusable, of course. But let's not act like parents don't whoop their children for the smallest things. The child spilled their food all over the floor? That's an ass whooping. Y'all can tell me if i'm lying, but i honestly doubt i am.
In reality, parents aren't creating children who respect them, but instead children who fear them. Sadly, a lot of parents find comfort in that. Why would you want your child to fear you? Maybe they finally feel the joy & satisfaction their parents felt. Maybe the feel of power & ownership is present.
A little fear is ok, but it's to the point where their children won't feel comfortable confiding in their parents. I don't know about anyone else, but i personally want my future children to be comfortable enough to come to me when they're confused, struggling, in trouble, made a mistake, or anything along these lines. I wonder how it feels when a parent finds out from someone else that their child did something bad? When they could've had a chance to stop that bad thing because instead of being secretive & scared, their child would've came to them knowing their parent(s) would've communicated with them & hear them out instead of an automatic push away & punishment.
Just learn how to communicate (without cursing and/or yelling their heads off) to children the issue at hand. I know for a fact that'll make a huge difference in both the parent's and children's lives. The parent learns how to shed their outdated beliefs while also learning a much better way of solving issues than violence; breaking cycles. The beautiful thing is the child will pick up on that & that could shape many many generations to come.
We need to remember that children are just that ... CHILDREN, not adults so an automatic ass whooping isn't needed & frankly doesn't aid at all to their emotional/mental intelligence & health.
Also, i don't care how your mama or your daddy whooped your ass & you "came out fine" ... want better ... do better ... be better & break the fucking cycle!
It is fucking 2019 ... leave this shit in slavery times, our grandparents generation, & our parent's generation. If we're going to whoop our children's ass, at least have a more than good reason to do so. Even then, communication is still needed. They are the future.
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